Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Just Between Us Girls
Many of us have fantasized about what we would say to the Original Recipe 3 wives if we had the opportunity, realizing that Robyn seems happy where she is while the others do not. So I am indulging that urge.
Meri, you and Kody really love each other, that’s really clear. But it takes more than love to make a successful marriage. What things would you like to have in your relationship with Kody that aren’t presently there? Can you have them while he is married to other women? Do you know that your body language, facial expressions and tone of voice portray the image of an unhappy person?
Do you ever wonder what it would be like to have a relationship where you don’t have to be jealous of other wives? Where you don’t have to be the primary parent or breadwinner? Where you aren’t alone 3 nights out of 4? Do you think that there might be other ways to “improve your character” and work on your jealousy issues besides watching the love of your life love other women? Do you want Mariah to feel the same emotions you have felt as a sister wife for the past almost 2 decades? If not, why not?
Do you feel remorse for how you have treated Janelle, Christine and their children? Do you understand why you have done the things you have done? Has your behaviour changed? Why or why not?
I am asking you these questions because I would like you to critically examine your life situation. It is very clear to many people that your primary relationship is not what you wish it was, and also that you are taking your frustrations out on others because you cannot openly admit your feelings. With Mariah on the verge of leaving home to pursue her education you also have a window of opportunity: to complete your education, fulfill your career aspirations and find true fulfillment. Will you?
Girlfriend, you have a good head on your shoulders so how did you ever let your situation get this bad? You had your chance when you moved out of Meri and Kody’s house to keep on going and never look back. Oh well, you can’t unring the bell as they say. But you can make better decisions moving forward.
As an accountant you know that your Balance Sheet is supposed to, you know, balance. Your liabilities are not supposed to exceed your assets. Have you ever taken an honest look at you and your children’s assets and liabilities/equity within the extended Brown family? Maybe it’s time to do that as it might be an eye-opener.
You seem so stoic, almost to the point of suppressing emotion. Are you trying to hide your feelings about some things in your life? Did you know that you have the right to be happy in life and that being happy and fulfilled, in your personal relationships as well as at work, sets a good example for your kids?
Did you also know that you have the work skills, and calm rational demeanour to do well on your own? You are not weak and clueless, as you have implied a few times; you are very strong and many women admire you. Your kids have turned out great. You are calm and rational and girl, you are GORGEOUS!
Christine, you have such sincere religious convictions and it is admirable to be a woman of faith in what sometimes seems to be a faithless world. You know what is required of good husbands in your faith (and of good husbands in general). You know you are being shortchanged. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be married to someone who LOVES you and sincerely cares for your material, spiritual, and emotional well-being instead of leaving you to essentially fend for yourself. Do you know that such marriages are possible and, in fact, exist? Would you like your children to have the example of that kind of marriage, or the kind of marriage you are living now?
Have you ever longed for your family to really care about you and your health? Did you know that many families consider depression to be a disease just like an infection or diabetes, something that must be treated by a medical professional and they support their loved ones who require treatment (including medication when necessary) because they love their family member and want that family member to be happy and healthy? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be part of such a close-knit family?
Beware. Kody will do to you with someone else what he did with you to Meri, Janelle and Christine.
Written by Terrasola
Now that the Brown's are in New York doing publicity for their show and book, it will be interesting to see if any of the interviewers even touch on some of the thought-provoking questions like you have, Terrasola.
Thank you, and Welcome Back!